The pain and embarrassment I suffered had taken its toll not only on me, but my partner as well. It wasn’t enough we were suffering due to the economy like a lot of our friends, but when we started having financial issues, I started suffering in other areas as well.

My erectile dysfunction (ED) was destroying my relationship.  Time and again I failed. When one fails to deliver in the bedroom, it is almost impossible for a relationship not to suffer as well. I love my partner and I sure missed what we once had.

I know my partner loves me, but everyone has needs. I know it is an old cliché, but it's true none the less.

Finally after another long night of promises I could not keep, followed by utter disappointment, I threw in the towel and hopped on the internet to research probable causes for my problem. I was amazed at what I found.

Please allow me to share

Erectile dysfunction has been in the public eye for quite some time and according to the National Institutes of Health, roughly 5% of 40-year-old men and between 15% and 25% of 65-year-old men experience it on a long-term basis.

I also discovered that ED is a much more common problem than most men realize and could become a problem some point in their life. ED is the failure to achieve an erection. Erectile dysfunction can occur for a variety of reasons, such as drinking too much alcohol over long periods of time or from being extremely tired as well from physiological issues brought on by the trials and tribulations of everyday life.

You should know that failure to achieve an erection less than 20% of the time is not unusual and treatment is rarely needed. However, failure to achieve an erection more than 50% of the time very likely indicates there is a problem requiring some form of treatment.

In order to achieve an erection, these conditions must occur:

·      There must be a stimulus from the brain that triggers the penis. 

·      The nerves to the penis must be functioning properly.

·      The blood circulation to the penis must be adequate enough to insure an erection.

·      The veins must be able to "trap and hold" the blood inside the penis.

If there is something interfering with any or all of these conditions, a full erection will be prevented.

The most common diseases that affect blood flow include: atherosclerosis (hardening of the arteries) or venous leakage (weak veins); nerve diseases; psychological factors, such as stress, depression. Other causes are sexual performance anxiety and injury to the penis. Chronic illness, certain medicines, and a condition called Peyrionie's Disease (scar tissue in the penis) can also cause the core problem.

Ok I discovered the possible causes of my ED.

To the doctors I go

 I take medicine due to a chronic illness and never read about the side effects. And when I did, lo and behold one of the medications I was taking could possibly cause ED. I immediately checked with my physician. He ran some test and found nothing physically wrong with me and decided it would be safe to switch that particular medication with another that had less chance to cause ED.

He also recommended that since my ED was not due to a physical ailment, and since I was already on medication, that I try something natural to relieve my symptoms.

With that good news in mind I knew my battle was half over.

Back to the internet I went, on a mission to find a natural way to rid our relationship of this intimacy killing condition that had nearly destroyed us, and be the man I once was.

And after a few trials and errors I found the one thing thatworked for me. And as a result, my partner and I enjoy the kind of relationship we once shared. You know the kind that has you communicating with your significant other rather than arguing, and laughing instead of crying. Since we have been able to communicate better, our financial problems have started to clear up, for the simple fact that we started working together, as a team, and not as isolated strangers.

Your turn

You now have no more excuses. If you read this whole story then you should be fairly well versed in the possible causes of your erectile dysfunction. The rest is up to you.

I will share this one last thing though. As soon as I discovered that I was not alone in my problem, and when I decided to do  something about it, that was when the wounds first started to heal. My wife was pleased. She gave me kudu's and offered more support just for me making the effort to cure my ED and better our relationship